School Prayer. Reminder: there is a separation of church and state in this country. That's a good thing. I like it. The problem I detect is that when we took the prayer out of school we washed it clean of thankfulness and the awareness of individual importance. It may sound strange, but these have got to be the two most important things we need to have when living our lives. Social graces and a good self esteem are a result of awareness: we may be small in the big picture, but we are important and we will be responsible. Do the little people know that? Luckily, in the city in which I live most folks are pretty religious so the children are kinda forced - ok, encouraged - to say prayers at home ... in All the variety of beauiful faiths.... and the children need to dress up for special occasions to show pride in themselves and respect for the occasion, and be thankful, and understand God.

Whatever that is... right... so to heart of the matter.

Understanding God is understanding yourself. It IS understanding that you are in control of your destiny to some extent. It's called free will. And that People are important.... that means YOU. Maybe the idea of God also is supposed to help us understand that we are teeny in the 'big picture', but I'm not yet convinced my children get that from weekly service. The pastor is far away, we have to sit in pues, we have to be quiet (because we're supposed to listen).... and it's one dreaded day per week.

Daily, young people these days get carted around from place to place. Sometimes they get to make decisions: where they go or what they participate in. But do they realize their impact? Are they thankful? Are the aware that what they say - both good and bad - will have a butterfly effect on the recipient? They are important. Not just because if you tell your kid - then yea, ok, mom told me I'm important.. blah blah.. ok. I'm important. They really are because they grow up and affect - and will continue to affect - the world around them.

But what is it to be Thankful? What does that mean? It only means what it means to the extent that goes hand in hand with self awareness. Who are we? Afterall we could be grateful for our blessing regardless of what they are: natural talents, a good home, friends, good looks, athletic abilities, insightfulness, innocence.... food on the table. Gas in the car. Thankful for life. Thankful for the unexpected kindnesses and smiles. It's the idea that there is something for everyone. Open yourself to the good things ~ and the good things will find you! Have Faith. Be thank-ful.

So prayer is out of school, but if the students were asked to pause, for example, before tearing into their short 20 minute lunch period. Maybe for a moment of silence and thanks. Maybe if they were given a little time to follow the home rules like washing hands before and after lunch. Maybe save 60 seconds before walking out the door after classes are over to just exchange a last pat on the back to the kids, a thanks, a last smile, an affirmation that a lot happened in the day both good and challenging encouraging these great young people to be thankful for the good, not fear that which is challenging and live a life in grace.